Making Sense of the Jargon

Before we go any deeper into waivers, services, and all the moving parts… I wanted to start here.

This is a downloadable PDF—a non-exhaustive list of common terms and acronyms, with clickable links for deeper explanation. Think of it as a starting point. Something you can keep, reference, and come back to as things start coming at you.

Because if you’ve spent any time in this world, you already know—
people in the field tend to speak in acronyms. Not because they’re trying to confuse you… they’re just used to it. It’s their everyday language.

But for families? It can feel like trying to follow a conversation where every other word is a code you were never given.

And more often than not… we don’t stop to ask what those acronyms mean.

Maybe we don’t want to interrupt.
Maybe we think we should already know.
Maybe we’re just trying to keep up.

But here’s the truth: you are allowed to ask. Every single time.

No one should expect you to navigate your child’s life, your loved one’s care, or your own services in a language that hasn’t been explained to you.

So this list? It’s just the beginning.
A way to put some plain words to things that are often overcomplicated.

We’ll go deeper.
But first—we make it make sense.

 

 

Waivers & Other Confusing Things Pt. 1

I’ve been contacted by quite a few people with questions about disability waivers, so I decided to create a series with information–that’s more easily understood than what you often get elsewhere–on the what/who/why/how of them.  I don’t purport that I know everything.

Hardly.

But I am sharing what I know.  And I’m also sharing my perspective.

What a Medicaid Waiver Really Is—and Why It Matters (Part 1) 

There’s a quiet reality happening in homes across the United States (I’m speaking from Virginia)…and it’s one of the most misunderstood things out there. 

It’s called a waiver program. 

And no—it’s not what people think.  

So… What Is a Waiver? 

A waiver is part of Medicaid that allows individuals with disabilities to receive care in their home and community instead of being placed in an institution. In simple terms, the government is “waiving” the requirement that care has to happen in a facility. 

That shift didn’t come out of nowhere. 

Decisions like Olmstead v. L.C. made it clear: People with disabilities have the right to live in the least restrictive setting possible. 

That means the community—not an institution—whenever it’s appropriate. 

Waiver programs to make that possible.  

Why This Exists (And Why It Matters) 

Before waivers, many individuals with disabilities were placed in institutions by default. Not because it was better. Because it was the system. Waivers changed that by allowing people to stay in their homes, be with their families, have friendships, participate in everyday life, and be part of their communities.

And here’s something people don’t always realize: 

It also costs less. 

Institutional care is significantly more expensive than home and community-based care.  So, this isn’t waste, it’s smarter spending. And it gives people something even more important than savings—it gives them a life that actually feels like living.  

What This Means in Real Life 

This isn’t about convenience; it’s about dignity. It’s about someone being able to sit at their own table, go out to eat, be a part of family life, have friends, experience the world around them…. instead of being removed from it.  

Final Thought for Part 1 

This isn’t a loophole or a handout.  It’s a system designed to save money, but more importantly, it gives people a better life.  And for a lot of families, it’s not just helpful, it’s necessary. 

What Comes Next 

In Part 2, I’m going to break down one of the biggest misconceptions out there—
the idea that parents are somehow “getting paid” in a way that benefits them. Because the reality of that is very different than what people think.  

If this gives you a different perspective, share it.
Because a lot of families are living this… and even more still don’t understand it.